Just Be

This is a great post for all entrepreneurs and those thinking of entrepreneurship...enjoy. I (Mia) wish I knew this prior to opening up a business, but I guess learning is part of the process.

Along the path of becoming and being in a position where you get to sign your own cheques you hear a lot of encouraging words such as: 'Good for you!' or 'You're so lucky, I wish I could leave my full time job and become my own boss' or 'Whats it like to wake up and want to go to work every day?'. The point here is: although these words of support are always great to hear and are very empowering, they may have a very negative impact depending on how they are internalized....as I learned the hard way. I got to a point of thinking that I'm so blessed to have a business that is flourishing, and to prove that I deserved it I brought my life to a state of serious unbalance. Some mornings the thought of going to work made me want to pull my eyelashes out one by one. Serious, I know. But the second a thought like that came into my mind I started judging myself. I mean how was I suppose to live up to my standards of being a 'happy' business owner if I'm waking up in the morning not wanting to go to work? You can see how this could be an issue and a serious waste of energy. I quickly learned that even parents who love their children more than anything had moments where they just wanted to run away from it all for just a little bit. So what makes me so special? Why do I have to be excited about my business 24/7? Well the truth is I don't, its not possible. We're human, we need balance in our lives and perma excitement is just plain creepy. Not wanting to go to work some days does not mean that you made the wrong decision when choosing your path in life or that you're unhappy with what you're doing.....it just simply means you'd rather sleep that day.

My lesson: let yourself be in whatever space you are in, without judgment. There is nothing wrong. If you watch your thoughts, without trying to change them its funny how fast they pass because you realize that they're just your thoughts and not the truth. Ah, one of the many great lessons to be learned from Yoga.



This quote doesn't have much to do with my post but I love it so much I had to share it:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?"
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God; your playing small doesn't serve the world.
(Marianne Williamson, quoted by Nelson Mandella in his inaugural speech)

Breathe. If you know that's good for ya.

I hate planes. I, Joanna hates planes. Wait, let me re-phrase, I hate riding in planes, jumbo-jets, single engine Cessnas, anything that takes my feet off the ground. Blame it on my yogic path that teaches me to “ground”, that I need to feel earth underneath me, supporting me, instead of being a gazillion miles below, separated by checked-in baggage and air…lots and lots of air.

So, last month I got hitched, and instead of a having a lavish affair here in hot, humid Toronto, we wed, Pacific shore side in hot humid Panama. It was great, and I felt so blessed to have my close friends and family there to celebrate with us.

Having the wedding of my dreams (and yes, it was) in Central America however, entailed having to get on Boeing 747, or 649, or whatever kind of plane it was, to get to my destination. A small price to pay right?

I should back-track a little…no, I am not deathly afraid of flying, nor do I pop pills to zonk out during the flight. Flying is just…so damn uncomfortable…right? It didn’t help that I was stuck in between two guys (my husband, and his friend Dan) who’s god-given shoulders cannot respect my personal space (or arm-rest). Not their fault. Since I’m the “shrimp” I apparently don’t have any rights to the aisle or the window seat. It also doesn’t help that the plane’s recycled air, constantly smelled like a soup of industrial cleaning product, airplane food and that undeniable fuselage scent.

So the flight to Panama City is about 5 and change hours from Pearson, and about 30 minutes in, I’m already sick of the plane. I’m annoyed, thrashing around, tired and just generally grossed out from being on the plane. I’m also super annoyed that JP and Dan both have their head-sets in, thoroughly enjoying the gags Just for Laughs they are playing on the little monitor in front of us. How dare you be so… so CONTENT!!?

2 hours in, I’m ready to pull out my own eye-lashes, and so I get up to do some stretches in the back of the plane. Yes, I bust out a couple yoga moves to stretch out my lower back (uttanasana) and shoulders (garudasana arms) and I instantly feel better, almost in a quantifiable way. I get back to my seat, and I’m not that annoyed anymore, and I actually take out my headphones to join JP and Dan to watch an episode of Two and Half Men and guess what…I actually laugh.

Not wanting to revert to my old miseries, I decide that to keep my sanity I needed to do some more yoga. But this time, I’d stay in my seat.

I spent the next half hour or so in my seat, eyes closed just breathing. No fancy pranayama. Just me – inhales and exhales. When I was through, I put on my sweater and read my gratuitous chick-lit book, calmly, all the way to Panama City airport.

I tell you this little anecdote to illustrate how wonderful the breath truly is. In yoga, it is THE tool, the common denominator we use to connect body, mind and hopefully spirit. One of my teachers calls the breath “the wind in our sails”. Think about that for a second…

As a yoga teacher, it’s my job to get people to not only breathe, but to breathe properly, and effectively. Yeah, that’s right, I see it in your blissed-out eyes after class, you were breathing! Every wonder why yoga feels so good? In addition to the physical benefits of asana, a yoga class encourages you to breathe fully, and completely, which most of us do not do automatically. We are a society of chronic chest breathers.

Did you know that effective breathing actually allows you to eliminate up to 70% of the toxins in your body. Why is this important you ask? Well, because that means your kidneys and adrenal glands can take it easy, and don’t have to work as hard to cleanse your body.

Very cool no?

So start breathing, folks.

Here’s a very simple breathing exercise to help you breathe fully and effectively. You can do this at home, at work, in the park…and of course, on a plane

Start by finding a comfortable sitting or lying position. Close your eyes, and simply start by observing your breath. Breathing in, and out your nostrils. Notice that you are in fact taking breaths in, and out.
Notice the difference of sensation between an inhalation and exhalation. Enjoy both.
Bring awareness to the quality of your breathing; pace, temperature, depth, effort. Try not to judge, just notice.
Then begin to notice where the inhalation goes after it enters your nostrils (where do you feel it in your body? Do you shrug your shoulders upwards when you take a breath in? Does your belly suck in when you inhale?). Do the same with the exhale, where does the breath go?
Now, to deepen your breath: As you inhale, allow your breath to travel into your belly, allowing your belly to gently swell. Keep your shoulders and upper chest quiet as you do this. As you exhale, gently pull your navel in towards your spine as if you were squeezing all of the stale air out from your lungs.
Continue breathing deeply, as you imagine sweeping every inch of your lungs (top to bottom, side to side, front to back).
Let the breath be easy and natural.
If you find this un-natural or difficult, try to stay with it. They don’t call it a yoga practice for nothing.

. (Start with a couple of minutes, building to longer increments of time. If you’ve got respiratory problems, or other health considerations, please be sure to check with your health care provider before doing any pranayama)

And yes...we did yoga on the beach. How can you not breathe, with a view like this

40 Day Eco Challenge

We are aware that it’s been said time and time again that it takes 30-40 repetitions to turn something into a habit. So we invite you to join our 40 day eco challenge, which can also be found in this month's issue of SNAP magazine. Your 40 days can start whenever you wish just remember to write it down in a calendar to keep track of when you started. We have 5 simple things that you can do for 40 days in a row, after which we are confident that at least a few of them will stick as a habit and become second nature. We invite you to go for it and don’t judge yourself when you slip. We’d love to hear all about your progress, please leave comments.

Here we go:

#1 Pick one product that you use frequently, such as laundry detergent or shampoo, and replace it with a natural/organic version. Remember to read the ingredients in order to avoid ‘green washing’. Check out the safety of different cosmetic brands: www.cosmeticsdatabase.com. Not only is this healthier for you, you will also prevent harmful chemicals going down the drain and into our waterways.

#2 Drink water ONLY from re-usable bottles. For 40 days skip plastic cups and bottled water. The easiest way to accomplish this one is to plan ahead, get a water bottle and have it with you at all times.

#3 Simplify your life by donating all the stuff that you don’t use. After you do that the 40 day challenge here is to only buy things that you will use on a regular basis. This will most definitely save you some green while reducing waste and pollution that is created by our mass consumerism.

#4 When it comes to energy consumption there is the obvious – turn off the lights. However a less obvious one is: whenever possible unplug appliances when not in use. This is especially true for phone and computer chargers, even when not in use but left plugged in they are still sucking back electricity.

#5 When buying any paper product always choose one with at least 50% post consumer content. This goes for toilet paper, paper towel, printer paper ect. By doing this you’ll be supporting the recycled products market which will send out a strong message to all manufacturers.

Have some fun with this and remember to keep us updated on your progress.

Just for some extra motivation the first 10 people that e-mail us info@greenlavender.ca and let us know that they accomplished all 5 for 40 consecutive days (we'll take your word on this one) will have their name put in a draw to win a basket full of some awesome eco products. The deadline for this contest is September 30th/2010.

A lesson on not getting stuck

Speaking with my sister yesterday about life and career and all the wonderful stuff that comes up often in our conversations, I came to some really interesting revelations. First of all if you put two or more twenty-something year olds together the topic of finding yourself and the right path is bound to come up. Ah gotta love the quarter life crisis. Secondly, although finding the right path takes much soul searching, courage and hard work (which we all already knew), the one.....and maybe less obvious lesson that I learned especially through opening up a business is to be flexible. And what I mean by that is be open to change that comes your way and stop resisting. I found this to be very important as a business owner and life in general.

What we do today at Green Lavender may not work tomorrow or it may need to be modified. As well what makes us happy today may not in the future, and what we believe to be important to us may be irrelevant a couple of years from now. Just because we chose to welcome change in our lives doesn't mean we messed up or made the wrong choice in the past, it just means we're open to constantly evolve. Its surprising how many doors open and new opportunities come up once we let go of a set of rules or definitions to live by. I'm no life expert but if you ask me that's a lot more exciting then being stagnant. Also its funny how much easier decision making becomes, all of a sudden that nagging pressure to make the 'right' decision disappears and you realize that as you evolve the things around you can be changed should the need present itself. So go on be flexible and keep creating yourself endlessly!

It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change. ~Charles Darwin~

And speaking of change I have to send out a BIG congrats to Joanna and JP, who got hitched yesterday in Panama. Now that's some serious change!